Take or Make
When I create my daily Good Morning message on IG and FB stories (@coach.strand), I interchange take and make when encouraging you to self-nurture and schedule time for yourself.
Which got me thinking about the words take and make. Which word most accurately represents what I am trying to express?
Make generally means to build or create something, to cause something to come about.
Take generally means to put your hands on it, to reach for and hold.
It may seem like semantics, but I think it indicates where you are in your unearthing. And more, about your understanding of the importance of self-nurturing and self-compassion. The embracing of the concept that you cannot provide to another what you do not have.
From my experience, particularly as a caregiver and now a caregiver survivor, I would change out the word “concept” and replace it with “fact,” but again, semantics.
Taking the next step in this thought process: to self-nurture, you need time. And here is where take and make comes into play.
Where in your busy and oftentimes overburdened home, work, community service, and other obligation schedule is there time to self-nurture? Time for yourself?
I sincerely hope you have worked on this, and self-nurturing time, the time for lovingly caring for yourself, is already within your day and week.
Let’s be honest – and I know this because I lived it – as a nurturer and caregiver that until you comprehend, willingly accept, and embrace the importance of not only caring for but nurturing yourself, this concept may fall “on deaf ears,” as the saying goes.
Here is where the take or make comes into play.
If you have already embraced the significance of self-nurturing, then you have already reached for and are holding the time in your schedule for what you need to do to care for and nurture yourself. Bravo!
If you are within the learning curve of discovering that you cannot provide to another what you do not have, then you will be working to consciously create room in your schedule to cause self-nurturing time to happen.
I am great with whichever works for you – either the making or the taking of time within your day and week – as long as you lovingly, kindly, and compassionately care for yourself – to self-nurture.
So, maybe it’s not about semantics. Perhaps it’s about where you are in your journey of stating Who I Am and loving and cherishing yourself for precisely who you are every day.
Whether taking or making, my friend, may you boldly place yourself in your schedule 💙
