Where are you in today’s schedule?
Or would a more accurate question be – are you even on your schedule?
I’m sure you’ve heard the same thing I have. Do the most important things first in your day. If there is a project you must get done, do it first. If you have an essential meeting, schedule it early in the day. If there is a task you’ve got to complete, move it up. Whatever you are trying to accomplish, you’ve been advised to work on it before doing anything else. Yes?
I think where this is tricky for me is in the wording “most important things.”
Yes, you need to do what will provide for you and yours regarding resources – typically, money is at the top of the list. If you look at it from a resources point of view, it’s understandable doing the work that will bring in the resources needs to move toward the front of the line.
But does it need to be the first in line? Or even the second? What I’m asking here is: Do you value yourself as one of the most important things in your life?
I’m navigating a journey I’ve unexpectedly found myself taking. Career-wise, I’ve been an educator, a nurturer. My key areas were primarily as a public school teacher and personal trainer, with a few other attempts at other things thrown in along the way. I was also a wife, mother, and then a caregiver. Although I am and will always be a mom, my children are adults and living their own rewarding lives.
It’s expected and a joy to have your littles grow up, test their wings and find their way.
It isn’t expected to become a widow a month before your 57th birthday. It’s the unexpectedness like this that blindsides you. And, when the dust starts to settle, and your new chapter is waiting to be written, your career and the role you had in the family may no longer be relevant.
I started writing this blog because I want to inspire and encourage you to take a bold step to discover, or rediscover – unearth, who you are. You are not the role you have in your family or your career. Who you are is what makes you good at these things. It’s easy to silence and set yourself in the background as you meet the demands in your life. And, in so doing, potentially lose sight of yourself along the way. It’s hard work to be who you are against the odds and pressures of society, family, job, and expectations.
So, let’s counterbalance, shall we?
Grab a piece of paper and a pen. (Your brain likes long handwriting for processing.) Without overthinking, list five activities you have done in the past or dream of doing that make you smile, bring you joy, and encourage you. Now, pull up your calendar and schedule them – before this time next month. Or Sooner. Don’t hesitate, hide, make excuses, or procrastinate. Schedule. (Perfect timing when you check your calendar and register today’s date.)
Now, repeat after me: “I am one of the most important things in my life.”
